After 2 years of infertility testing and treatments, Jordan and I began to think that God had something planned for our lives other than biological children. We turned to open adoption to grow our family and we couldn't have imagined how it would tranform our lives and those around us in such a wonderful way. This is our journey to a different kind of family...one that we wouldn't trade for anything!
Pre Application -questionaire -1/2 day orientation at agency
Application-$300 -14 page questionaire -drivers license and criminal history check -adoption fee agreement -firearms safety verification -copy of birth certificates -copy of social security cards -copy of driver's licenses -copy of marraige license -verification of Employment -copy of Tax Returns for last 3 years -affidavit of Health Insurance Coverage -Copy of Life Insurance (min $50k each spouse) -Emergency phone numbers -Map to Home from adoption agency -Floor plan of home including square feet of each room -Copy of pet vaccinations -Physicians report(physicals) -4 reference letters to be mailed directly to agency(3 non-family who have known couple at least 3 years, 1 from church leader) -Ten year residency history -Current credit report for each spouse -Statement of Understanding: No guarantee of placement -Agreement to Terminate services -Waiver of Confidentiality -Acknowledgement of Notice to Require testing -Policy of Ethical Practice -Picture of Husband and Wife -Two pictures of home (front and back) -HIPPA releases
Office Interviews-$500 -assigned social worker meets individually and together -begin required reading (3 adoption books)
2 Day Seminar-$300 -discussions and group exercise -read additional seminar workbook
Home Study-$500 -social worker conducts safety visit to home -additional interviews at home -complete draft of Picture Profile/Relationship Profile -verification forms -evacuation plan/safety checklist
Entrance into Book-$2,000 -finished Picture Profile for birth parents -website Profile completed and published
Phone call -Birth parent will contact via phone
Match Meeting -meeting with birth family at Agency -24 hours for both parties to consider match
Ongoing Contact after Match -get to know birth family outside of agency -scheduled agency meeting
Hospital/Birth -Agency facilitated plan to visit hospital as birth family suggests
Relinquishment/Entrustment-$21,400 -sign documents -Entrustment Ceremony for adoptive and birth families at hospital
Finalization! -6 months after placement court date with Agency
When I was a kid, I used to love looking through the photo album my Mom kept filled with me and my brothers yearly photos with Santa. You could say that Santa changed almost as much as we did from year to year, and that always confused me. Somehow my Mother made me believe he was really just a stand in for the real Santa who was busy at the North Pole getting ready for Christmas. (thanks Mom for the logical explanation) So in keeping with a little family tradition, me and my good friend Bethany bundled up our babies today and headed to the shopping mall (on a Tuesday after lunch hoping to miss the crowd). Rylin decided that sleep was more important than meeting Santa for the first time, but he did give a little smile for the camera.
Duke is still fond of his new little buddy, but not overly interested in what he's doing all the time. That is, until Jordan pays attention to Rylin. This is a moment I caught the other day with all the guys.
Duke likes to rest his head on things. Anything. So Rylin's tummy was a natural perch. Rylin didn't seem to mind. I think I even caught a little smile. Dang that Duke...he would be the first to make him smile!
Rylin turned one month old the day before Thanksgiving and we had our Dr. appointment yesterday. He weighed 11lbs 13oz and was almost 24inches! They told me he was off the charts for all his measurements (and intelligence) and it confirmed our suspicions that he has been growing like a weed. He now is awake a lot more and likes taking a bath.
I got a smirk out of him today, but I'm still looking for a big toothless grin. We have been getting out now too, and Rylin likes to be lugged around in the sling where he can get cozy and take a nap. He is also sleeping for 5 hours straight at night, which may not sound like much, but to us seems like forever! We still feel so blessed and we love him more every day!
This was a week of notable firsts. On Thursday Jordan's parents brought us Thanksgiving lunch and then we made our first road trip with Rylin to my parents two hours away. Needless to say, he slept the whole time! He got to meet my extended family on both my Mom and Dad's side and was passed around and loved on by EVERYONE.
The Wines Family
The Great Grandkids and Grandmother Wines
The trip back home on Friday started out rough, but Rylin passed out after we got on to the highway. Sunday, we made our first trip to church together. Once again, he was a champ. Doesn't he look cute in his Polo corduroy overalls and boots? Thanks Lindsay!
Sunday afternoon Tess, her Mom, and her Sister came over for a late Thanksgiving lunch. Tess's sister was at his birth, but lives in Austin, so she hadn't seen him since. We had a good visit with all of them.
Since I have been less than creative with taking pictures of Rylin, I enlisted the help of my good friend and photographer Jennifer Sebby to take some newborn pictures. We decided it might be fun to take a trip to Scott+Cooner(my old employer) to find some inspiration. For six years I worked in sales among some really cool modern furniture (not too mention some cool modern people), and I knew that we would find more than a few unusual props in the showroom. So we packed up on a Saturday, and headed downtown. Much to our surprise and relief, Rylin slept through the entire shoot! We had a lot of fun, and I think the pictures turned out great! Here are just a sampling. You can check out more of Jenn's pics here.
I know, just what you want to read...some sappy blog about Thanksgiving. I really feel overwhelmed by the thought. This year Jordan and I have so much to be thankful for, and I think I could write for hours about all our happy blessings. Just last year we sat in the middle of what seemed like the most frustrating holiday season. We were on a break from fertility treatments, and watching everyone around us get pregnant. I told myself that if I ever did finally have a family, I wouldn't take ONE thing for granted. So on that note (with a nod to all my good buddies out there who still hope and dream for a family blessed by children too someday) here are a few things that I can genuinely say I'm thankful for this year, because I remember what life was like without them.
lack of sleep dirty diapers 2 am feedings baby crying inability to shower daily achy back spit up and drool getting peed on fading social life cranky husband no spare dollars irrational fears lack of space no more packing easy dirty laundryless me time romance slow downearly to bed smelly formula shortest bathroom trips crusty boogers waking early messy house soiled blouses noisy car rides